Recently I was in a Facebook group where the post included a woman who had gone to great lengths to get an amazing ass. It was obvious she indulged in butt injections. The comment section of the post was wild and ranged from delicious to disgusting. At one point, a woman suggested that the woman did this because of the pressure men put on women to have a big ass. A guy responded by saying that men didn't do this, she did. I agreed with him, and the debate started.
You see, I think butt shots is a condition of women attempting to fit other women's theory concerning beauty with a side of low self-esteem. The woman in the group disagreed stating that because of men's admiration of asses, women feel the need to get butt injections. I explained that this is a woman's doing because of other women. For instance, I have never heard a man say a woman's eyebrows are sexy neither have I heard a man say, "Oh baby, that contouring is turning me on!" The only reason why women focus on eyebrows, asses, and contouring is that we want to live up to the beauty standards of other women. Women force this idea on us that big butts, contouring, and eyebrows are life.
On the other hand, I can understand that some women may feel that getting a man of their dreams or being instafamous, is to have a big ass. I mean look at the women we celebrate Kim Kardashian, Nicki Minaj, Amber Rose, and Black Chyna. An ass got them where they needed to be or did it?
I think their talent, yes talent, and persistence got them to greater heights and just maybe their butt reconstruction boosted their self-esteem. Do I think they would've made it without getting butt injections? Most definitely. Do I think they believed that? Hell no.
And this is why I think women get their ass filled with chemicals because they are following the lead thinking that a phat ass will lead them to the promise land. Many women who feel this way should realize those celebrity women with big booties and little thighs got to where they're at because they put in work. Yes, like many years of work, that extends beyond their ass. However, I can't help but think that many of these celebs with ass shots regret it, like K. Michelle in the video below. It seems like their behind undermine their talent, makes it hard for people to take them seriously, and most importantly causes significant health risks.
I wish women would recognize that it isn't the ass that takes you places or gets you the man you want. It is you. You are so much more than a phat ass. And as the saying goes...for every hot girl there is at least one dude who is tired of her bullshit. So even if you get the ass that you want from the butt shots, you still need substance. Because I bet you money that the woman with a small to no ass is getting more serious dates than the woman with a fat ass and little thighs.
Yes, yes I know it is a strange addiction, but I have to admit it. I need to get it off of my chest. I have to let the world know that, I - Alisa Elliot is overwhelmingly involved in using filters to enhance my (every) pictures [insert sad face].
A couple of years ago I couldn't understand the hype over filters, and I remember staying away from the technology because I thought it was photoshop. Fast forward to today, and now I don't like posting a picture without using a filter.
The problem is - I look like a 35-year-old me. The lines under my eyes, the crow's feet beside my eyes, and my crooked smile from being an avid thumbsucker is completely showing my age.
I should be proud, though. I hold my weight pretty good at 5'6 (technically 5'5 3/4), I've birthed three kids, and I've had an interestingly (hard) path - I started being a mom at 15. When I went to therapy at 30 for being confused about life, I was told that I had lived a life of a 40-year-old. So now that I am turning 35 this summer that means I'm mentally turning 45 - but why must I see it around my eyes?
I never really been bothered about looks until I started YouTubing and seeing celebrities my age on tv holding down their beauty remarkably well - no lines, no wrinkles, just flawless. I think it's unrealistic to put these expectations on myself, but I can't close my eyes and pretend as if I don't see it. I see it! I want my emerging wrinkles to move around. BUT not on my face - not on my watch!
Makeup is the trick; filters will help increase the magic however when I look into my seven year old's eyes when she smiles - there I see it. She has my smiling eye creases, and I love it! Her smile warms my heart, and the lines under her eyes show me my DNA embedded in her. Will I tell her to look for creams to hide or minimize her future wrinkles inherited from her mother? No, no I won't because I want my daughter to be her beautiful self. She is confident, care spirited, loving, smart, and reminds me that I have done something right and I see it in her lovely eyes.