Let Me Reintroduce Myself
I want to apologize for my delay of being inactive with my blog. It’s been almost a year since I wrote my last update. A lot has changed since then. I’ve had a lot of self-growth that wasn’t present when I first starting writing this blog. I have found a career in the nonskilled healthcare field, I’m understanding my research study that I’ve been chasing for 4 years, and I am more comfortable with not knowing everything about myself. I’ve encountered many inner battles since writing my last blog. Last year I found myself getting more serious about my past as the media and the #metoo movement made unstoppable waves.
With the end of the year approaching, I have a yearning sense to do more. Recently, I have been pushing the envelope with my caregiver business. This is the first time in ever that I have continued to follow through with a business I have started. It feels good to accomplish this task however, I am not sure if it’s due to me avoiding writing my research paper. I know that 2019 should be my last year in the program, after all, I have finished the curriculum.
My kid’s school year hasn’t been a usual headache. This year Danni is in the fourth grade and Dylan is in the fifth. They’re both doing pretty decent. So much so that I don’t feel the urge to quit my job to play catch up. My oldest is even in college and he is sticking with it. I have to say I am pretty proud of that and he recently moved into his own apartment.
Donald and I are in our second year of marriage. Four years together and still learning each other. I think this is a lifelong thing that never gets old. Currently, I am shitting bricks because it’s time to go before immigration. My nerves are hitting me hard due to past relationships and family words but that is another story.
I have traveled a little this year. I made my yearly trip to Amsterdam and traveled abroad on my own. I paid for my trip too and that made it so much more satisfying. I even had a day in Germany and I didn’t totally lose my cool when I encountered a situation where I couldn’t find any English or the restroom.
I think I’ll play catch up to 2018 and discuss my life adventures. October is here and I am reflecting. I want to thank you for being patient with me and reading my blog. Don’t ever think I skip the notifications when you subscribe to my blog. It is a pleasant reminder that I have something to say and I have people who appreciate what I have to contribute to the blogosphere.
The 8 Year Wait: Repercussions of Waiting to Tell
I have stopped and started in the sharing of the information that I am about to give. It has been on my mind for some time. I wrote a couple months ago about the MeToo movement and my experience. I explained my situations and why I didn’t say anything. It was because of my own insecurities and not wanting to be “the one” that I have failed to protect future victims. Now I want to share more. I want to discuss why it is so important to speak up even when you feel like it is too late.
Butt Injections & the Promise Land
Recently I was in a Facebook group where the post included a woman who had gone to great lengths to get an amazing ass. It was obvious she indulged in butt injections. The comment section of the post was wild and ranged from delicious to disgusting. At one point, a woman suggested that the woman did this because of the pressure men put on women to have a big ass. A guy responded by saying that men didn't do this, she did. I agreed with him, and the debate started.
No Career Help from MAWW
If you've been reading my blog over the past year, then I'm sure you know I struggle in the career department. I have a ton of advice to give, and the formal business knowledge of nearly $200k worth of student loans, yet no one will hire me. It's been a couple of years since I've held a job that genuinely reflects my potential. I've earned mediocre salaries and coins for raises. And if you're wondering about my background - I've never been to jail or fired as an adult. I have good credit, excellent performance reviews, and an associate, bachelor, master degree.
Born a Crime
I am a huge fan of intelligent, witty, and charismatic comedians. Trevor Noah is all of the above plus more. In his book, Born a Crime, he details his humble beginnings growing up in Africa in a single parent household during apartheid. In the book, Noah describes his struggle of being the only biracial family member and his beautiful relationship with his strong, smart, and courageous mother.
You ever wake up and feel like today is not the day for me? Well if not, lucky you. I don’t know what has my mojo in a headlock. I’m not even sure why I feel like I am in a slump. It could be the sight of cleaning my lovely home (Jesus I always wanted a big home but cleaning it YIKES). It could be the end of the year and feeling like I didn’t accomplish much. Who knows what is bothering me?! I’m just hoping my attitude will change soon because Christmas is around the corner and I have to put on a happy face.
Ending the MeToo Life
The recent headlines seem to uncover new sexual misconduct allegations every day. Sexual misconduct is taking a front seat and pushing other relevant topics to the back of the political bus. We're no longer discussing police brutality, Russian gate, natural disasters, immigration, equal rights, and foreign policy. Instead, we've become distracted by information that we’ve known existed throughout our history. Many of the allegations that are coming to light are supported by statements from additional victims including bystanders who validate their story. It seems as if everyone knew, but no one publicly came forward until the trending hashtag #MeToo. And I am not here to throw shade because I want to yell MeToo.
Rise of the Minority Voice
I cried when the news broke that Donald J. Trump is the 45th president of the United States. Yes. I cried. I took a shot of my husband's whiskey on election night thinking Americans hate women, people of color, LGBTQ, and people with disabilities. But most importantly, who were my friends who voted for this idiot to hold the most valuable position in the world.
The Mother-Daughter Career Path
It feels good to be back writing. I feel like I've missed out on explaining so much. First of all, (LOL thinking about the new montage for 'first of all' memes) I've been absent due to figuring everything ALL out.
I can't believe I've been blogging for a year! Time has definitely gotten away from me and so has landing the perfect job or trying to cope with being consistent with my entrepreneurial skills.
Self-Hate & the Natural Woke Hair Warriors
What is self-hate? This is a question I asked myself a couple days ago as I participated in a Facebook hair group of nearly half million women who are intrigued with natural hair. The 4c hair group is dedicated to individuals who are looking for guidance when it comes to taming or amplifying their natural mane. I have found a love/hate relationship with the group.
I woke up on August 28th shook. I work, live, and play in Houston and as of right now, the city, the place that gives me life, is Bikini Bottom thanks to Hurricane Harvey. I love humor and a bit of sarcasm. It gets me through life. I made Harvey a joking matter, thinking that it wasn’t going to be that big of a deal.
Little girls and weave: Too much & too grown
So I'm in a Facebook group with nearly 500,000 followers who love black hairstyles. I usually just look, like, and comment as needed. I'm more careful about what I say/post because I can see that the women in this group can either be very comment friendly or vicious.
The Little Big Chop
I did it! I'm not totally convinced that I'm sure why I decided to do it though. My mind races with reasons as I type this...maybe it's because I like a change or maybe it's due to turning 35 next week. It could have something to do with wanting to feel my bald head, wanting luxurious natural curls, or being tired some of the same blonde hair/style, or it could be my upcoming European holiday has me losing it.
Black Privilege: Opportunity Comes to Those Who Create It
Our First Mother Daughter Luncheon: Dresses, Hair & Girl Power
Is Your Facebook Page Keeping Your Love Life on the Shelf?
Again and again across my time line I see my perfect, successful, attractive Facebook friends make a fool of themselves over their relationship status. If only I could reach out to them and let it be known that even though you look great on paper your Facebook page indicate something different. Truth is, we (your audience) know why you're single.
Happy home anniversary to us! It feels good to finally remain in the same school district, school, and neighborhood after moving 3 consecutive years.
I remember when I first moved to Houston and lived in the Hoe Stroll, Bissonnet & Woodfair. It was a shock waking up and seeing prostitutes, drug dealers, and homeless people outside the apartment gate every morning. I remember telling my good friend how it was a great neighborhood as long as you stayed inside the gate.
Family: A Strong Word
My son and I have had a rocky relationship throughout the years but the older we get the more it seems to mellow itself out. We don't argue like we use to and we take the time to listen to each other. I don't like the decisions that he makes, and I am pretty vocal about it, and he doesn't mind letting me know that he is going to follow his own path and I respect that. It took a long time to get to this point. I had to mature, and so did he. Overall I am proud of the young man that he is becoming.
4 Section Air Dry Wash Day Routine
The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F#ck is Worth Every F#ck
Filtering Through the Lines
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The Becky & Danni Show
Playtime w/ my Favorite Girl
Little girs and weaves: Too much & too grown?
The Big Chop - well, the little BIG chop
Fun times running for wine
A quick hairstyle
E'Tae Hair Product - Yay or Nah
My favorite beverage
Homemade Chicken Strips From Scratch
Chicken, chicken, chicken I am going out of my chicken mind over my chicken strips.
Homemade Mac & Cheese
I didn't fall in love with mac and cheese until I started making it from scratch. Forget the imitation and make the real thing!
Hair To The Future
I got my first dose of international traveling last year, and it was one of the most memorable experiences of my life. The culture, people, scenery, architecture, food, and language....I am drooling just thinking about it!
In Between the Relaxers